Durham Connects has now endorsed “The Roadmap to Breastfeeding Success"!
“Our team of home visiting nurses recently took the ‘The Roadmap to Breastfeeding Success’ course from Hug Your Baby. The course provided valuable information on how the infant's developmental changes affect breastfeeding. This gave us insight on how to best help moms recognize and manage their babies' resting, active, and fussy times. The course has enhanced our ability to teach all moms, whether they choose to breastfeed or not.” Paula Wright, RN, BSN, IBCLC; Director of Clinical Services
I was on the search of obtaining contact hours for ICEA certification and DONA recertification when I stumbled across HUG Your Baby, a program I had not heard about before. I immediately turned to my experience as a mother of a thirteen-week-old and recognized many of the behaviors Jan mentioned in the class. I was learning information to not only share at work, but to apply to my own baby as well. And, The HUG tips and techniques worked great! I noticed that after observing and understanidng her behavior, I felt even more bonded than before and breastfeeding improved. I felt more confident and had a more complete understanding of what she was "saying" with her behavior.
Working as a Labor and Delivery RN has always been very rewarding. But, after my HUG training I am better able to help a mother bond with her baby after I have helped bring that life into the world is priceless.
Recently I had a visit was with a young adolescent mother having her first baby. This young mother was very passive and quiet in her personality. It was challenging for me to care for this couplet because I felt I needed to watch for emotional cues indicating distress in both the baby and the mother. It was as if both were giving me S.O.Ss (Signs of )ver-Stimulation. I had to be vigilant in my observations.
This young mother, only one day postpartum, was hesitant and unclear when her baby needed to eat. She would wait until he was wailing to try and bring him to breast. Of course, she would then get frustrated because he wouldn’t latch. I could see that this mother wanted to breastfeed and that the baby really wanted to eat! I discussed the baby's "Ready" and "Rebooting Zones" and suggesting that waiting to feed in the "Rebooting Zone" did not seem to be working well. The young mother was immediately boosted in her confidence level after seeing these S.O.Ss. She then was able to feed her baby for 45 minutes.
We then discussed the many triumphs and challenges of life with a newborn during the first few weeks of life. She really was thankful for the insight I was able to give and was able to then open up and share her feelings of inadequacy as a “teenage mother.” Her whole face changed as I watched her bond with her baby. It was a gift for me to be a part of supporting this young mother. I value the teachings I was able to give her and feel more knowledgeable in my profession as a labor and delivery nurse. Thanks Jan!
In 1983 I trained as an infant massage instructor with Vimala McClure, author of "Infant Massage for Loving Parents". One of the most important lessons I received from Vimala is to recognize the value of "asking permission" from the baby before starting a massage. Vimala says that "asking permission" is a wonderful way to show respect and love for the baby and to see each baby as a person with the right and freedom to say Yes or No! The challenge, then, is to be able to see how the baby says that he is ok to receive a massage or that he is not available and needs a break. Understanding babies' cues--and helping parents read their baby's body language--are fundamental to teaching and learning the art of infant massage.
|Benedetta and Jan at |
2014 training in Bologna
|Benedetta with her grandson|
|Benedetta's first HUG Your Baby class|
Though today’s parents have access to the Internet, numerous books, pediatricians, friends and grandmothers, they still have much to learn and need our support. Since their baby can always be their GREATEST teacher, parents need and want to observe and understand their baby's body language. HUG Your Baby training and resources, I believe, can give new parents and the professionals who serve them, information and skills to make all the difference!
|Doesn't Benedetta's grandson make you want to give The HUG!|
HUG Your Baby Zones and SOSs are such a wonderful and easy to understand tool for early parenting. This information is already clicking with so many of my new parents! You can just see the "ah ha" moments parents have when you explain the SOSs and Zones as it relates to their individual baby. The relief new parents get when you give them this information and relate it specifically to their baby is just priceless! There is nothing better than instilling more confidence in a Mother/new baby bond. It's so vital. Even as a Mom of 5 who deals with this age group every day, I learned many new concepts and tricks to deal with my own infant.
It's always a struggle in our culture to promote lactation when many moms are not aware of normal newborn cues and behaviors. Breastfeeding education is so important and I feel HUG classes will do wonders for the Mother/infant bond as well as Father/infant and extended family. I plan to teach HUG Your Baby concepts at local classes, at pregnancy crisis center and homeless shelters. These locations are always in need of lactation classes, parenting classes, childbirth education classes. I think families who follow HUG Your Baby will see a longer breastfeeding duration and that is a wonderful thing for the baby and the family!
I would ask the Mum if they thought they knew what was going on with their baby, and most Mums at this stage would answer that"my baby is hungry and I'm worried I don't have enough milk". I would agree that the baby's behaviour can be confusing and then go on to explain the process of initiating lactation and the baby's role in this. I would also take time to use the techniques I learned to calm the baby. I try to keep this all very brief, and condensed as it is usually the middle of the night and these Mums are all getting very tired, some even exhibiting S.O.S.! I try to speak in a calm reassuring manner and I find a much more positive response from these Mums.
The other most common problem I encounter is that the baby will fall asleep at the breast the moment he latches on. then waking up the minute they are taken away from the breast. I usually have six women and newborns in my care, and cannot spend a great deal of time with one mum. However if a mum is struggling, I do my best to spend more time with the mum and bub to show further settling techniques such as patting the baby in bed and rocking the baby. This seems to give these mums more "tools" in managing their babies and increase their confidence.
Huge tears rolling down Maria’s face say it all. “Anna cries all the time, and so do I!” this young mother tells her husband. As if on cue, Anna seems to wind up for a big one. Her face gets red, her hands start to tremble, and her legs stiffen. Though Maria knew that all babies cry, she never imagined how overwhelmed she would feel when her tiny newborn enters the fussing/crying, "Rebooting Zone."
T – Talk to your baby. Lean over and use a persistent, sing-songy voice close to her ear. Give your baby a few seconds to notice and respond to your voice.
- Bend the knees upward and rotate them outward to protect the hips. (Here is the International Hip Dysplasia Institutes's link to safe swaddling.)
- Do not swaddle tightly, or for long periods of time.
- Monitor the baby's temperature to avoid over-heating.
- Never put a swaddled (or un-swaddled) baby to sleep on his stomach.
- Stop swaddling baby once she can roll over (at about 3-4 months old).
© HUG Your Baby 2015
By Jan Tedder, BSN, FNP, IBCLC; President of HUG Your Baby; See Roadmap to Breastfeeding Success Online Course
Research confirms that a woman's misunderstanding of normal child development is an important, and often over-looked, cause for abandoning breastfeeding. Though these issues are covered in depth in The Roadmap to Breastfeeding Success online course, we must be aware of the other, complex variables that may impact a woman's ability to initiate breastfeeding and to continue to breastfeed.