All babies cry, and maybe you've discovered that most new mommies cry as well! Crying is communication. Newborns begin to increase their amount of crying at around two weeks of age, and the time they spend crying peaks by six weeks. Colic is defined as crying for more than three hours a day, for at least three days a week, for at least three weeks. That's a lot of tears! Though the cause of colic is still not understood, recent research shows that smoking during pregnancy increases the risk of colic.
Jamal is an intense, robust young fellow who was born three weeks early. Right on cue he increases his daily crying when five-weeks-old (two weeks after his due date). When he cries, he is serious about it! He flails around and won't put up with swaddling. After being fed and changed, he is calmed only by a vigorous sway. He likes the swing, and he's fond of a car ride, a stroll around the block, or dancing with Dad. It takes a lot of effort by his parents to keep him calm.
In addition, Jamal seems especially sensitive to the world around him. A loud sound or even the movement of a diaper change rattles him. He needs to suck his paci and close his eyes (as if to shut out the whole world!) before he can calm down. His parents discover that swaddling and holding his hands against his chest help him. Being carried in a baby sling or cuddling on the couch with Mom helps too.
Studies have shown that parents benefit from information on a baby's normal crying and sleep patterns, tips on calming techniques, how to reduce overstimulation and how to read their infant's cues. Additional research (by Bell and Ainsworth) shows that when mothers give early and more nurturing response to their crying babies during the first year of their lives, those babies cry less the second year of their life. Their mother's prompt response seems to increase the child's sense of security.
Though crying is a challenge for all parents, for some it triggers a frightening reaction. Mothers experiencing post-partum depression, parents lacking good social support, and all families struggling with substance abuse issues are at risk for letting their feelings fly out of control. These parents need special help.
Parents are encouraged to ask for help: a neighbor to stroll the baby while they take a quick nap, a huband or friend to take the baby to the store for some diapers while mom soaks in the tub, a grandma to show the new dad what trick worked best when he was a baby. Soon this young mom and dad will be able to tell their baby's tired, from his mad, from his hungry cry-- and know what works best for this baby.
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